In the course of love there will always be difficult phases, where you are at risk in drawing down the Trust account. To trust is to be vulnerable. Vulnerability allows play. There is no overdraft protection in relationships, and a bounced check is lost trust, credibility, and the fragile sweet spot of vulnerability and play disappear. Investing in your personal relationship builds up a savings account of trust.
Deposits to the trust account are made from listening to your partner’s stories, creating empathic connections, building a solid friendship, sharing, problem-solving on smaller issues, and just spending time together. Your job is to understand, not to be understood.